Tips for Wives to Bring Him Out of His Shell

When He's a Loner: Marriage Moment by Renée at Great Peace Academy

My Beloved can be a bit of a loner. (Honey, if your reading this, sorry, but it is true). So what’s an extrovert like me doing with an introvert like him? Ah, Love, who can guess it?

What’s a girl to do when she needs attention from her man and he wants to be left alone. Well for me… I started a blog. Just kidding, only slightly.

But, what is a girl to do when her husbands a loner?

5 Tips for Helping Your Loner Husband Come Out of His Shell

  1. Well the first thing she has to do is to tell him she needs to spend time with him. Open and honest communication is always best in marriage.Remember ladies, he can’t read your mind. I know, shocking right? If you want him to know what you are thinking then you have to tell him. Your husband loves you and wants to please you, but often doesn’t know the right time or the right way to do this, so you have to share with him the things that you need and that includes the times when you need to spend time with him.
  2. Do something special for him. I don’t mean something for the 2 of you. I mean, do something that is totally for him. Let him know you are thinking about him and want to make him feel special. Perhaps it’s a gift that he’s been eyeing for a while. Perhaps it is a ticket to a sporting event, or 2, for he and a friend. Send a bag of M&M’s to him at work. The goal is to show him you care for him. In return you may find that he takes notice of you again.
  3. Don’t hog all of his time. This is the hardest for me. I want to spend as much time as I can with Beloved. But, I know that he needs time alone. I know that sometimes he just needs to go into his own space, do his own thing and not be bothered. I try, really I do. But then again, sometimes I sneak in just to give him a kiss, then I leave again.
  4. Schedule time for him and the children to have time together away from you. Remember that dad’s need to develop relationships with their children also. Let him take your daughter on a date. Book him tickets to your son’s favorite motor sport. Send all of them to dinner without you. Order a pizza and you leave the house and remind him that this is their time to bond. Otherwise you’ll come home and find they’ve gone to separate corners.
  5. Don’t let him get into such an introverted place that he loses himself there for weeks or even months on end. This can happen. But remember, you are his wife. You were made to be his help-mate. This is an area where he will need your help the most. God never intended for humans to be alone. He created woman specifically for the man so that he wouldn’t be alone. Being alone too much leads to depression. We’ve seen this over and over again in our society.

If the time comes when you look around and realize you haven’t really talked to your man, or you haven’t spent very much time together. Or, perhaps you haven’t seen his face in a few days, (GASP). Then it’s time to make some plans.

Plans for Helping Your Loner to Get Out of His Shell

When Your Married to a Learner Tips and Plans to Help him come out of his shell. Marriage Moment by Renée at Great Peace Academy

  • Get out your calendar, call a sitter and schedule a date night.
  • Make a special dinner, for the entire family, one that requires real plates and silverware.
  • Have a game night. Either just the 2 of you or for the family.  
  • Invite a friend couple over for a meal. 
  • Book a golf outing for he and a buddy.
The goal with these options is not so that you will become his only focus. Rather, it is to help pull him out of his introverted funk and get him back to communicating with others.
 If you have a husband who isn’t an introvert, then perhaps you won’t understand these options. But if you are like me and need to see more of your man when he get’s in his “loner” phase. It’s up to you to help him see that life outside of his introverted self looks pretty good.

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2 thoughts on “Marriage Moment: When He’s a Loner

  • January 27, 2016 at 9:01 pm
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    I have tried all of what you’ve suggested before reading this, hasn’t worked…

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